Happy Monday, friends! I hope all of those in the US that celebrate had a wonderful and festive Thanksgiving holiday!
I don’t know about you, but there is something about routine and reliability that provides me comfort and happiness. One of my favorite aspects about the blogs I follow is that most of them have some sort of staple post that shows up every week. Examples include: What I Ate Wednesday, Friday Favorites, Life Lately, Motivation Monday. Some blogs post a recipe on a particular day each week. Some blogs discuss a workout once a week and feature a breakdown of a series of exercises. The possibilities are endless. And because I like this about other blogs, I want to do it in my blog too.
I’d love my readers to help me decide what kind of weekly post I should write. This blog is for me for many reasons, but my goal is to make it about my readers so it’s only appropriate that I get your input. Being that I am relatively new in this blogosphere and the readers that I do have (I love you all!) are probably still unfamiliar with my style, it’s probably hard to give input just yet. So I think for a while I am going to try out a few of these weekly blog post ideas and rotate some in and out until I get a good feel as to what you all like the most. Having said that, pretty please send me comments. Comment directly on the blog post, shoot me an e-mail, find me on Instagram and message me there, or whichever other mode of communication is best for you. I want to hear from you and I welcome as much feedback as you’re willing to provide. I am looking forward to hearing from you and I promise I will make my posts worth your precious reading time and will create this place to be a welcoming and happy space.
Since today is Monday, I will kick this little “weekly blog post idea” trial run off with a good old fashioned Motivation Monday. I want to discuss how I think social media has greatly impacted and influenced our brains to be in full-time comparison mode. Even if we are not consciously aware of comparing ourselves to our friends and strangers whose lives we follow, it’s bound to happen. I challenge you to Motivate yourself on this Monday to just be aware of social media’s impact and remind yourself that a little comparison is ok, but you are ENOUGH exactly as you are. Just by being aware of these little social media “pit-falls” may help to rid what is oftentimes an instant, automatic reaction of comparison.
Social media impacts our minds and switches it into comparison-mode for several reasons. The first being that logging into our Instagram and Facebook accounts is a daily, if not multiple times a day, habit that most of us cannot seem to kick. We have these apps on our phones so we scroll in line at the grocery store, during our lunch breaks and when we are home at night waiting for our veggies to roast. Therefore, we are reminded a zillion times a day about what others are doing. We see what they are wearing, what they are eating, how much they are spending, what they look like in their bikinis or barely there workout clothes, what their homes look like, who they are married to or in a relationship with. We see a LOT. It is only inevitable that, even for the most confident and self-assured person, we compare ourselves. I should buy that outfit, I should eat at that restaurant, I should make more money to be able to afford what they are buying, I should drink that tea to lose weight and look like that in a bathing suit, I should have a nicer house and buy that same couch from Restoration Hardware, I should have that kind of partner. Notice the common theme? The word “should” is used in every sentence. And in the words of the great TV icon Carrie Bradshaw, “why are we should’ing all over ourselves?” When you catch yourself smack dab in the middle of should’ing, exit the app and do something that makes you happy. Read one of your go-to motivational quotes, take a short walk, or text a friend to see how their day is going. And this can help stop all the should’ing.
Another reason as to why social media has created this constant comparison mindset within us is that, for most people, their Instagram feeds are highlight reels. They post only the good stuff. That’s not necessarily wrong to do because we also do not want to be bombarded with bad stuff nor do we want to see and hear about someone complaining or being negative all the time. But it’s just important to be aware of the highlight reel posting practice. Why would they post a makeup-free selfie on a day when they have a bright red zit on their chin when they can just wait for a good skin day? But what happens when we see the good skin day post featuring dewy cheeks and glowy skin on a day when we have had a major breakout? For me, I immediately think I have awful skin and I need to invest in a brand new skin care regimen so I can be just as dewy and glowy as my friend in her post. It’s an immediate reaction. It’s not my friend’s fault for sharing her glowy skin. We just need to make sure we are reminding ourselves that we have good skin days too. We are not less than just because we might feel that way after scrolling through the highlight reels of our friends and the celebs we follow. It’s ok to aspire to be more like someone based on what we see so long as we do not also allow it to corrode our self-confidence while doing so.
With that, I challenge you to stay motivated in all of the good, aspirational ways we want to be motivated. But also to motivate and remind ourselves not to fall victim to the social media comparison trap. Be careful not to over-saturate yourselves on a daily basis and always remember that these feeds are highlight reels featuring celebrations and filtered photos. We have our share of happiness too and our glowy skin days are just around the corner.
I hope everyone has a great Monday. Stay motivated!